2018 Marriage Retreat

The authors of Resilient Ministry suggest that “Ministry is not a nine-to-five job. It is an absorbing lifestyle.”

A pastor's ministry has distinct implications for marriage and family life. Conversely, family life also affects ministry. The normal pressures of marriage and family are often intensified for pastors and their spouses, not to mention other added stressors that are uniquely ministry-related. This probably isn’t news to you—you already know this from your own experience, and you live in it every day.

We’re offering this marriage retreat as an opportunity for you and your spouse to spend some time reflecting on your marriage together. Our goal is to make this a rewarding experience for you—a time of refreshment and encouragement. It’s one step forward to help support and value your marriage and family.

We recognize that it will be really difficult for some of you to pull away from your normal routine, especially if you have little ones to care for. We want to encourage you to do your best to set up things in advance and take every advantage of this opportunity. Let us know how we can help.

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Our Speakers

Our retreat speakers are Doug and Lois Swagerty.

Doug and Lois grew up in the Los Angeles area, met in high school, attended Covenant College together and have been married for 41 years. Doug majored in Philosophy at Covenant and then earned a M.A. in Philosophy from Villanova University and a M.Div. from Westminster Seminary. Their church-planting experience began in 1984 when they planted Coastal Community Church (PCA) of Oceanside, CA. After 14 years at Coastal, they helped start Harbor Presbyterian Church in San Diego, a multi-site church that eventually planted nine different worship sites in various locations throughout the greater San Diego area. Doug then served as senior pastor at North Coast Presbyterian Church in Encinitas, followed by almost four years of ministry in Santa Fe, NM. In the summer of 2015, Doug and Lois returned to their home in Carlsbad and began coaching church planters and pastoral couples. Through these ministry years, Lois has also led worship, discipled women, taught music and written books. Doug and Lois have three grown children and three grandsons.



Friday, May 4 – Saturday, May 5, 2018

Friday – Date Night!

  • Check in to the hotel is at 3 pm.
  • We're working on scheduling a fun group activity like a brewery tour at Harpoon Brewery.
  • There won't be a formal agenda for Friday evening. Rather, we want to offer you an opportunity for dinner out and time with your spouse.

Saturday – Marriage Conference

  • Complimentary breakfast at Element (for those staying at the hotel)
  • We'll start at 9 am
  • The morning's activities will include:
    • Worship and devotional
    • Two sessions and a time of prayer
  • Lunch
  • The afternoon's activities will include:
    • Separate breakouts for men and women
    • A closing session
  • We'll end at 4 pm.


We've arranged for a block of rooms for a Friday night stay at the Element Boston Seaport, located in Boston's Seaport District near the BCEC.

Our Saturday gathering will be held at the Aloft Boston Seaport, just next door to Element.


The church will cover all of the expenses for the marriage retreat.


In order to arrange for hotel rooms and food events, we are asking each couple to register by April 4 using the registration form below.


We're not offering childcare on site, but we do want to help subsidize childcare if you need to hire a babysitter. Please don't let childcare costs keep you from participating.

Registration Form

Your Name *
Your Name
Spouse's Name *
Spouse's Name
We plan to take part in: *